This post was developed via a partnership with BetterHelp.
Intimacy issues can be difficult to solve. They have many possible reasons for occurring and they can happen to new couples as well as couples who have already been together for decades.
If you are worried about your intimacy issues, you are definitely not alone. Many people are currently struggling with this, and it can be difficult as many people do not like to discuss intimacy. You might feel like something is wrong with you, your partner, or your relationship in general.
Try not to stress, however. Many people have successfully improved their intimacy issues, and there’s no reason why you can’t do the same.
So, read on to learn more about how to solve your intimacy issues.
The Source of Intimacy Issues
Part of solving intimacy issues involves getting down to the root of the problem.
So, what are some reasons for the development and continued existence of intimacy issues? There are so many that it is impossible to make a definitive list.
That said, here are a few possibilities.
Infidelity
One of the most common sources of intimacy issues is when one or both partners is unfaithful. And this is not limited to physical, i.e. in-person, liaisons. In the age of the internet, there is such a thing as digital infidelity as well.
Trust Issues
There are many reasons why one or both partners may have trust issues. Perhaps one of you has been caught lying. Perhaps one of you has had a traumatic past. Whatever the reason, trust is required for proper intimacy. Without it, it is extremely difficult to have a healthy level of intimacy.
Sexual Incompatibility
Some couples struggle with sexual compatibility. If you have issues in the bedroom, then it is very likely that you will struggle to maintain proper intimacy. This is a more common issue than many people like to admit, but sexual incompatibility will certainly make intimacy more difficult.
How to Solve Intimacy Issues
Intimacy issues are tough, but fortunately there is plenty of guidance available online nowadays thanks to helpful online resources such as BetterHelp.
Here are a few helpful tips for solving your intimacy issues.
Uncover the Source of the Issue
If you don’t stop and reflect on the source of your intimacy issues, you have very little chance of success for solving them. Consider the above section for possible reasons, though there are many possibilities for intimacy issues, and it is up to you to get to the bottom of it.
Spend Quality Time Together
Intimacy issues often occur over time as couples spend less quality time together. Doing something that you both enjoy will help you recover the spark and may lead you back toward the bliss of loving intimacy.
Take Your Time
Rushing intimacy is never a good idea. Taking your time will help you get to where you want to go. In this way, patience is key. For example, you might try holding hands while going for a walk rather than immediately trying to get into the bedroom. Intimacy issues often take time to solve, so be patient.
Seek Help
Depending on the severity of your intimacy issues and how much difficulty you’re having in trying to solve them on your own, you may need the help of a counselor. You can seek individual counseling, but couple’s counseling is probably the best situation if your partner is up for it.
Conclusion
Intimacy issues can be heartbreaking. It can feel like nothing is right in your relationship and your love has died. But just as often as there’s a problem, there’s a solution. Getting to the bottom of your issues will help guide you toward fixing your intimacy issues. And if you need outside help, don’t be afraid to get it.
